The nervous and stubborn child

                             The nervous and stubborn child

How do we deal with it?

Stubbornness is the failure to obey the orders of the parents and implement their demands, and it becomes a fixed behavior or behavioral phenomenon when the child is determined on his opinion and rejects any order directed at him, but the stubborn child has a characteristic that has two sides, one negative and the other positive. If he is dealt with wisely, he will become a successful personality when he grows up, just as He may fail and get into many problems if he is treated incorrectly.

Therefore, parents should pay close attention to this issue, away from violence and beating, and try to control emotions through tenderness, care, and love to change this behavior and encourage him to control his stubbornness, anger, and negative reactions, and act in the right way.

How to treat this behavior in the correct way

• Stay away from direct orders:

  A method must be found for discussion and dialogue without issuing orders, and the child must be given the freedom to express his feelings.

• Encourage and praise the child constantly:

Praise and appreciation for any positive action makes the child feel safe and balanced. In addition to not comparing him to other children, as this drives him to be stubborn.

Listening to the child’s desires and giving him time to speak and express what is going on inside him without interrupting or arguing: Be a good listener to your child and learn about his problems within the family or school, and help him reach the best possible solutions, and his wishes must be listened to and respected.

• Lack of emotion and haste in punishment and violence:

One must be patient when dealing with a stubborn child, as it requires a lot of wisdom and flexibility in dealing with him, not using the method of hitting, and following the principle of dialogue and discussion.

• Controlling feelings of anger and tension:

  When a child continues to be stubborn in a specific situation, he should not be tense, and the place can be left for several minutes until he calms down, and then he can

• Consultation with a specialist:

It is possible to consult a specialist to modify the negative behavior of your stubborn child after all attempts have failed. Discuss the matter with the child completely calmly, and the child must not be upset so that his stubbornness does not increase.

Depending on his age, a stubborn and nervous child is often intelligent and active, but smart methods must be followed when dealing with him, and I have pointed out the need to allow him to make the decision or at least participate in making it.

She pointed out that parents are required to descend to the child’s mental level, not to be condescending to him when talking to him, and to ensure that the tone of voice is calm, in addition to using vocabulary that he likes.

  Most social counselors recommend respecting the child, instilling confidence in himself, and not forcing him to do anything he does not want to do. She said that it is advisable to establish a daily routine in the child’s life that leads to improving his behavior and academic performance, and enables him to anticipate the course of things in his day without disturbance or anxiety. Parents must also deal with the issue of stubbornness as a positive and beneficial issue in the child’s life, and not a source of constant anxiety and tension.

The most important manifestations of nervousness in a child are: intense screaming, or quarrels with his peers and with those around him, such as his siblings and parents, nail biting, finger sucking, or his intense insistence on what he wants.

Social counselors stress avoiding violence and beating, as this makes the child more aggressive and more stubborn than the first. Also, trying to get close to him and being patient, flexible, and positive all encourage the child to do things in a different and calm way, and makes him feel confident, loved, and respected, and reinforces good behavior in him.

in the end

  Life without a naughty child is full of boredom.